Raising Kids, Homeschooling, Trying to be Financially Healthy
My daughter, Kay, and a friend's daughter, May, had just recently started dance together. They were so excited. My daughter had done dance before but her daughter had not. I realized with the impending changes, I was going to have to take Kay out of dance since it was an unneccessary cost. I was concerned May would be very upset. However, when I let my friend know, she revealed that they too would have to severely cut back due to an upcoming job change. We started discussing all the things we couldn't do: eating out, movies, costly field trips, and more. We found relief in the partnership to cut back. It isn't fun to have to say "no" all the time and be around someone who can throw caution to the wind when it comes to finances. If you have to cut back, it is not only more comforting, but it enables you to pool your resources, creativity and strength during such times. I told her if we can't eat out, we will just exchanged dinner nights at each other's house and it will feel like we are at least getting to go somewhere different and eat something we didn't cook! She reminded me that we had some kids that can pass down clothes to each other and that we both can sew. I encourage you to not be so quiet when you are going through a financial struggle. Others may be too and it will not serve you or them well to keep it from each other. Caution: Beware so that you don't become a whining victim either. If all you do is whine about the problem, you will find yourself stagnant, because you are so focused on the problem that you can't even begin to see solution. You may also find yourself a lonely because, generally, no one can stand to be around someone who does nothing but whine about circumstances.